Before You Go Out Having Sex On The First Date Please Read This.

Just last week a friend of mine went out to meet her long time online boyfriend in a close by hotel eventually one thing lead to another and they gave up the s*x urge in them but she came back regreting what she has done while she brief the   gist to me. 

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So You’re out on a first date with someone whose sexual energy cannot be denied. You find yourself extremely attracted to his sexy eyes or her sensual lips. On top of the matter, lunch/dinner was fantastic and the conversation was even better than you had hoped. Your date knowingly smiles, leans forward. Crazy you! Lolz 

Before you do anything funny just take a look at following points

• S*x on a first date reduces chances for real love

Sleeping with someone on a first date is lust over love but it’s still a hugely intimate act. It can be fumbling, awkward, and frankly, more than a little embarrassing when normal bodily functions happen in front of a stranger. The way the brain deals with this awkwardness is to disassociate a bit. It creates emotional distance keeping the physical intimacy in one tidy little box and the heart in another, safely under lock and key.
Attempting to have both emotional and physical intimacy on a first date would be too much for our psyche’s to tolerate. And once you’ve set up the two-box system, it can be hard to break. By removing s*x from the equation at the start, your feelings are based only on your mental and emotional connection. Since your hormones can wreak havoc on your mind when you sleep with him or her, your physical attraction may start to override your emotional connection, thus making you think you’re in love when you’re actually in-lust.(Read: 7 Signs he wants to kiss on for the first time)

• It can bring feelings of regret

Just like my friend later did. Think about it. Most persons (mostly women) want sex for the first time with a new partner to be a mind-blowing special experience that brings them closer to a mate. And in one study called “the passion turning point” study, participants who expressed feelings of love and/or had conversations about commitment before that first-time s*x, found the event to be positive passion turning point. Sleeping with him on a first date made them feel even more connected and secure. But if they didn’t have these conversations, s*x became a negative turning point in their relationship, evoking feelings of regret and needs for apologies. And, who, on a first date is ready to talk about love and commitment?

• Your date Might See you as that Cheap One.

"We Human being value mostly that thing we stressed to have" All relationships have milestones, from the first date to the first kiss to the first time you see each other naked. Having s*x at the first instance eliminates that particular milestone since it’ll be all over in the first 12 or so hours.

Also, some people treat s*x like a conquest, a challenge to overcome. If you yield to your sexual desire too easily, then your date may either think that you’re an easy lay that doesn’t even need the promise of a next date or that you’re just looking for a no strings attached relationship.(Read: How to approach that girl and win her heart)

• Your date doesn’t know your body yet.

It takes time to get to know someone’s body, from their little quirks to their ultra-erogenous zones. It’s highly unlikely that your date will go all Sherlock Holmes on you and deduce where best to touch you.

First dates can be awkward enough as it is. Just imagine how much more awkward it would be to start fumbling in the dark while not knowing how to even please your partner!

• What if it doesn't work out? 

Let's say you sleep with someone on a first date and then you don't hear from him? Or if you are the guy, what if you call and she doesn't return your call?(Read: Secret to stretch mark prevention