(Must Read) My Wife Use Stella To Save My Number in Her Phone

This is a true story from one of us here.

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"Ladies and gentlemen, I'm sorry to trouble you, l simply need you guys to help me deliberate on this issue. My name is John residing in Lagos Nigeria, I have never touched my wife's telephone for 9years we got married, l don't even want to know who she call or who calls her, on the grounds that am an extremely busy individual. So l was in the lounge a week ago and my son was with my own particular telephone, you know little kids can imprudently lose or drop the telephone anyplace without knowing, so my wife's telephone was close to me, she too was in the kitchen, so l looked for my telephone however couldn't discover it and l took my wife's telephone, dialed my number to scan for my own telephone and a name "Stella" popped out, l dialed again perhaps it was a wrong number, same name popped out, l got to be interested, l dialed my second number, "Stella 2" popped out, l was so irritated, I'm yet to confront her since l noticed that, Even if she can't save it with a pet name, why not use my real name(John) and save it, its irritating, what has my name John got to do with Stella, l don't really get that.

Anyone with better explanation why my woman of 9years should do this, please help me out before I do something stupid. I love her so much."

Dear John,

 I believe you're matured enough and quiet reasonable. This woman has been with you for the past 9 years and if anyone should know her better, that person is you. So I urge you to calm your self down and talk out the issue with her as husband and wife who have stayed for 9 good years but you have to avoid any physical abuse. 

At end, you will see reason to forgive her and continue rolling inlove as one. Nevertheless I will give other readers the opportunity to throw more advice and explanation as you asked.. 

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My Dream Wedding: How Not To Get Married

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BEN: (sighs) My dear three Million is too expensive for a wedding reception hall

JANE: (rolls her eyes) There you go again! Always thinking small. I'm I marrying a weakling?

BEN: Please don't call me that. My salary is N250k a month,.....you know that! Where am I going to get Three Million Naira For wedding reception venue????

JANE doesn't seem to be listening.She looks away as if BEN were speaking to empty space.

BEN: (continues) You can't insist on that,it's not fair and I won't stand for it, or kill myself.

JANE: (scoffs)*HIAN!!!, I am not being wicked oh, biko!, Every woman wants the wedding of her dreams,  If you can't give me that, then I dont know what we are doing.

Long silence between THEM . BEN looks stunned, JANE looks prepped for a civil war. [Read:Why you need to stop dating married men]

BEN: (pauses) I can't afford that,I'm sorry. The marriage is more important Than the wedding. (sighs) Even if we could afford it, Afta weddin,we no go chop for house?? NAWA oh!!!

JANE: Mtcheeeeew!!!! U sef u no know before u come engage me? (disgusted) What are you saying? Did I force you???

BEN: (to himself) this girl no go kill me!!

JANE: No b ur mates wey dey Bella naija? Didn't Amaka have her reception there,at that place? Is her husband not your junior by a year? (waves him away) ABEGGI!!!!

The cost of my wedding dress is N500k

The rings will cost N1.5M (points a finger) Amaka's husband spent N3m for their rings And you say I'm being unreasonable?

BEN: Chineke!!! Are you comparing Me to your best friend's husband? (shocked) Amaka's husband manages an oil block, Me I be civil servant! How can......?

JANE: (interrupts) I don't think we are right for each other John (Shakes head) You're not ready for marriage! I MUST have a "society wedding" And I don't think we can live on N250k a month.

BEN: suddenly looks pale

JANE: (calmly) I think we should call the whole thing off. If you can't give me what I want theres no need. (pauses) I don't even think we should be together.

The air around them is deathly still,as if time itself were holding its breath.

[Before you go out having sex on the first date, read this]

JANE: (continues) Listen,I love you...I really do But I can't have a cheap wedding. (shakes head) I no fit fall ma hand for dis town like that,  What would people say??? Please let's end it here abeg, Go and find a "cheap" Girl to marry.

After another two weeks of fighting,JANE & BEN called off their engagement,cancelled the wedding and broke up.

"I won't lie to myself", Jane was telling her friend Amaka later. "I loved him,but sometimes love isn't enough....I deserve a dream wedding," she declared finally.

JANE is currently dating some rich politician. BEN is still single.

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My friend STANLEY  is an artist. He paints very well. His paintings cost somewhere between N15,000,00-N25,000,00 a piece(I.e if and when he manages to make a sale)

Every morning,he and his girlfriend,JULIET (one of the prettiest women I've met in my life)would find a busy street in GRA, park by the side of the road and display STANLEY's Paintings for people to buy.

Most times they'd stand in the sun for hours while they marketed his paintings.They are both graduates by the way.Their only shade from the blazing sun was STANLEY'S old HONDA(which was basically an ancient-looking vehicle that "Jiggled" violently and made loud "sputtering" sounds while he drove it.

There were times I'd see the two of them practically chasing after cars caught in traffic in a bid to sell the paintings.

Anyway,STANLEY & JULIET got married in September last year. Now,when I say "small" wedding,I mean...."SMALL" wedding. At the reception,The number of guests was somewhere between 50-60 people(this included the ushers and the DJ)

There was no MC and no "High-table".The DJ was very good(though he kept on playing "High-Life" music.... Which I thought was very annoying......I mean who does that?).

Their rings cost N45k(altogether) And JULIET'S wedding gown N35k

Anyway,it was one of the happiest AND simplest weddings I've ever attended. The couple had their "Honey-moon"at GRACE MANOR hotel in NSUKKA.  They were there for about five nights(because that's what the groom could afford)

[Read :Why you should never date your friend's ex]

What's interesting is, at the hotel STANLEY ran into a director for a multinational company he'd applied to for a contract years ago.

Today, STANLEY  has an insanely BIG contract with a multinational Company in ENUGU State(I SHIT YOU NOT!!).His Painting business is now a "side business"

A guy that could barely afford fuel for his car,now can't seem to make up his mind what part of the world to take his wife to.

If JULIET had demanded for a "dream wedding" would they be where they are today?

Don't quote me wrong, I'm no cheapskate but what's more important the wedding or the marriage? You decide

Life is a choice my friend, So choose wisely. A word is enough  for the wise. 

[Read :Why you should stop accepting conditional loving]

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What To Do If Your Wife is Cheating

You have been searching for what you will do to stop you wife/girlfriend from having emotional affair. Firstly, you must come out of the shame and anger. Though you are hurt by her actions, if you go to the roots of the problem, there is a lot to learn in that stage of your life.

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We tend to marry someone when we are deeply attached emotionally with a person. It means that a marriage fulfills certain needs. And when those set of needs fail to be fulfilled, gradually any person would fall in love with someone else who caters to those needs. That is how affairs start.

Now, if you suddenly find that your wife is having an affair, you must first understand that something went wrong from your side too. What to do if your wife is having an affair? Even if you are hurt, gradually come out of the confusing state of mind and think about the following steps.

What to do if your wife is cheating

Contemplate, realise your mistakes and accept them: If your wife is having an emotional affair, it means that you are not fulfilling her emotional needs. You need to do some soul searching immediately. Ask yourself whether you have not met her emotional, physical or financial needs in a proper way.

Talk to her openly. Ask her opinions: It is better to remain calm for a few days so that you can think well. Then one day, when both of you are free, you can express your opinions calmly. Tell her how much you love and need her. Also, tell that you are deeply hurt by her affair. Simply ask her opinion and feedback too. She might also tell you why she felt ignored in her relationship with you. Treat her opinion as feedback and think what to do in order make her feel happy.

Give her a choice: Give her the freedom, try to be a man that your wife truly loves. See whether you can make a conscious attempt to change. Let a few months go by. If your wife is still not happy with you, then it means that she loves the other man with whom she is having an affair. Giver her a choice politely. There is nothing wrong in asking for loyalty. If that is not possible, give her the choice of moving on.

Explain the pros and cons of her final decision: If she wishes to part ways with you, explain the pros and cons of separation. Both of you will need to suffer a bit due to a divorce. If you have children, then both of you must rethink your divorce decision.

Have the courage to accept the reality: If she finally chooses the other man and walks out, just be courageous to accept the reality. Failures are common and natural in relationships. Just learn the lessons and try to be a better man in your future relationships. Did you understand what to do if your wife is having an affair?

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Reasons Why You Should Never Date Your Friend's Ex

He’s hot. He’s sexy. He turns you on high heat when he’s in the room. The crux is that he’s your friend’s ex boyfriend! Here’s why he’s off limits. By Lianne Choo at lovepanky.com

The dating world is a mean one filled with jerks, losers, perverts and guys with tiny members. There is no denying that more and more men are living by the adage, “Hit ‘em then leave ‘em”. Good guys can be pretty tough to come by and no one is faulting you for jumping on the first eligible guy who comes along.

But what if your dream guy is your friend’s ex?

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Before You Go Out Having Sex On The First Date Please Read This.

Just last week a friend of mine went out to meet her long time online boyfriend in a close by hotel eventually one thing lead to another and they gave up the s*x urge in them but she came back regreting what she has done while she brief the   gist to me. 

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So You’re out on a first date with someone whose sexual energy cannot be denied. You find yourself extremely attracted to his sexy eyes or her sensual lips. On top of the matter, lunch/dinner was fantastic and the conversation was even better than you had hoped. Your date knowingly smiles, leans forward. Crazy you! Lolz 

Before you do anything funny just take a look at following points

• S*x on a first date reduces chances for real love

Sleeping with someone on a first date is lust over love but it’s still a hugely intimate act. It can be fumbling, awkward, and frankly, more than a little embarrassing when normal bodily functions happen in front of a stranger. The way the brain deals with this awkwardness is to disassociate a bit. It creates emotional distance keeping the physical intimacy in one tidy little box and the heart in another, safely under lock and key.
Attempting to have both emotional and physical intimacy on a first date would be too much for our psyche’s to tolerate. And once you’ve set up the two-box system, it can be hard to break. By removing s*x from the equation at the start, your feelings are based only on your mental and emotional connection. Since your hormones can wreak havoc on your mind when you sleep with him or her, your physical attraction may start to override your emotional connection, thus making you think you’re in love when you’re actually in-lust.(Read: 7 Signs he wants to kiss on for the first time)

• It can bring feelings of regret

Just like my friend later did. Think about it. Most persons (mostly women) want sex for the first time with a new partner to be a mind-blowing special experience that brings them closer to a mate. And in one study called “the passion turning point” study, participants who expressed feelings of love and/or had conversations about commitment before that first-time s*x, found the event to be positive passion turning point. Sleeping with him on a first date made them feel even more connected and secure. But if they didn’t have these conversations, s*x became a negative turning point in their relationship, evoking feelings of regret and needs for apologies. And, who, on a first date is ready to talk about love and commitment?

• Your date Might See you as that Cheap One.

"We Human being value mostly that thing we stressed to have" All relationships have milestones, from the first date to the first kiss to the first time you see each other naked. Having s*x at the first instance eliminates that particular milestone since it’ll be all over in the first 12 or so hours.

Also, some people treat s*x like a conquest, a challenge to overcome. If you yield to your sexual desire too easily, then your date may either think that you’re an easy lay that doesn’t even need the promise of a next date or that you’re just looking for a no strings attached relationship.(Read: How to approach that girl and win her heart)

• Your date doesn’t know your body yet.

It takes time to get to know someone’s body, from their little quirks to their ultra-erogenous zones. It’s highly unlikely that your date will go all Sherlock Holmes on you and deduce where best to touch you.

First dates can be awkward enough as it is. Just imagine how much more awkward it would be to start fumbling in the dark while not knowing how to even please your partner!

• What if it doesn't work out? 

Let's say you sleep with someone on a first date and then you don't hear from him? Or if you are the guy, what if you call and she doesn't return your call?(Read: Secret to stretch mark prevention

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Why You Need To Stop Accepting Conditional Love

Conditional Love is that love that depends on what is received from the person the love is given to. For example, I will love you if....you are rich, if you have a great car, if you will not betray me, if you will not lie to me, if you have a great body.  This love asks for something in return, it has a condition!  As soon as *if* comes into the equation in whatever way..that is conditional love. I was talking to a friend of mine yesterday on phone about her current dating situation, the subject of challenges we all face in life, and how a significant other will handle them. She is in the very early stages of seeing someone, but those stages are still there to teach you about a person.

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An Open Letter from a Lady who is about to have an Abortion(Advice Needed)

Some see pregnancy as a blessing while others view it as discomfort, a lady who said she is pregnant has taken a bold step to write this emotional open letter to the "Little Thing"

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What you should learn from Linda Ikeji and Mr Ayedee story

Yeah Linda ikeji blog was removed and restored after 24hrs for plagiarism. well I'm not here for that report (you can read here ) but in a case like this, reasonable ones will learn some good lesson from it while others will wait till it happen to them before they will learn. Linda is one of the top successful bloggers in Nigeria today but I guess some people contributed to her success.After reading what she posted on her blog on how her blog was removed and restored + the person that masterminded the whole thing, I was inspired to drop this piece of words to those who cares to avoid what happen to Linda, u might not be a blogger but what happened to her can happen to anybody regardless of you area because it was more of informal than formal as most of us thought. Though problems can naturally come but believe it most of the problems we encounter in life are cause by us (whether knowingly or unknowing) You will tempted to ask me "how" , wait after reading what I have then you will know how.

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