How to Attract the Right People into your life.

We attract people at our common level of woundedness or our common level of emotional health. This means that if you want to attract a healthy, loving persons, you need to become that healthy person first. This does not mean that you need to have attained some imagined level of perfection, but it does mean that the kind of energy you project has everything to do with the kind of person you attract. As a business owner, you need to attract the right clients to your practice. As a friend and a lover, you also need to attract the right soul mates into your life.

Though, there are no much different in these two aspects of life when it comes to attraction. Ok get it now, when you start making changes to my life, both categories/aspects seemed to fall into place at exactly the same time.

Whether love life, business, or friendship — attraction follows pretty much the same rules.
And they might not be what you think.

So how do you attract the right people into your life? Are you ready for this? Because it's some seriously powerful stuff:

• Be your self- Get clear on who you are, not who you’re told to be.

Often times, our desires are a lot more aligned with society’s expectations than with what we really want. Is a good-looking guy or gal really your top priority? What about a sense of humor? Do you bite your tongue and smile when talking to some people? Do you neglect to mention the things that you really love for fear that you'll be judged or criticized -- or just to fit in? Do you smile and nod when you really want to give someone a piece of your mind? Do you dress differently for different people? Do you have a work mode, friends mode and family mode? These are just a few examples of where an inauthentic version of you may be making an appearance and creating opportunities for the wrong people to settle into your life. Be who you are !!The right kind of people – those you will love hanging out with – will love you not despite your strange habits and quirks, but because of them.

• Know what you want- Picture your ideal, and be specific.

You can’t get what you want if you don’t know what it is in the first place. Start thinking about the exact person you want to attract into your business or your life. Remember, you're the only one setting the rules here, so the sky’s the limit. Be specific on everything from their secret passions to their inner fears. When you know what you’re looking for, you’re a lot more likely to find it.

• Just know that you mustn't please everyone- Get really good at repelling people.

The most common barrier to attracting people into your business or life is trying to please everyone. If you’re keeping everyone happy, then you’re not being special to anyone. When you are authentically yourself, some people are inevitably going to be repelled. And that’s a good thing. Once you start sending away the wrong fits, you’re making room for the right ones to come in.

• Make your self available

Think of it this way: You’re a lighthouse calling the ships in. If you don’t shine your light bright enough, no one’s going to be able to find you. So put yourself out there. Place yourself in situations where you can be found. Introduce yourself to everyone. Be as much of yourself as you possible when you first meet. Give the right people a chance to find you.

• Be truthful/Open to whatever comes along.

At the end of the day, business or lovemight not come in the form that we expected. But that doesn’t mean that it’s a bad fit. If you’re putting yourself out there authentically, watch who starts coming into your life. Sometimes who we are attracting can teach us a lot about ourselves that we didn’t know. And it might be a better fit than we expected.

Be who you are! There are right people ou there searching for you, Make yourself available. The good, the bad, and the ugly. Be authentic. Don’t just be another carbon copy of someone else. Show people exactly who you are, so the right fits can find you.

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