Getting Over Your Ex.

Falling in love or getting married can be fun/the best thing that can happen to you, at first you see your partner as the best in the world, along the line maybe two or three weeks/months which ever the case maybe, you discovered that you two are not compatible, differences & argument everyday.

To worsen the case you guys always fight, no happiness and you just have to let go of that relationship, you just have to let go of that marriage for peace, happiness and comfort yet you remain stuck on your ex and can't seems to move forward because breakup is among the most painful thing one can endure . The pain of losing someone you have loved, someone with whom you shared your heart, your dream and your life can be devastating.

You keep thinking about the person despite the ugly experience you had while you are with him/her. That's human nature for you and you can never cheat nature, I'm sure there was some good moment you had with your ex maybe at the infant stage of the relationship.

You find yourself caught in a negative spiral of trying to figure out what went wrong, feeling angrily at yourself, your ex or whom ever that caused the break up because Sometimes, parents & friends relation can also contributes to that.

The ability for you to get over your ex depends on your maturity ( not age but rather reasoning). Just sit down and describe what you really want in a man/woman, don't describe the impossible (no one is perfect), now you know what you want and your ex have no such quality. Take a deep breath and say "she/he doesn't deserve me" you're special and you deserve special people.

Stop thinking about your Ex: This can be done by removing anything that makes you remember your past relationship/marriage, take it out of your sight. Thinking about your Ex can only make your heart filled with negative thought, sometimes you cry and start blaming yourself. Drop that inferiority complex feeling you have about yourself and know that you are too good for your Ex,so why should you think about him/her.

Have Fun With Your Friends :To help you forget your ex I recommend you hangout with friends, keep your heart busy with friends activities. Please Note: Never hang out with those who always be with their partners. They will make you feel jealous and you will keep remembering your ex instead of forgetting him/her. Hang out with those friends who doesn't have partner or they don't hangout/talk about them often especially when they are with you, that's the friend who understands your situation.

Don't Just Stop Smiling: When you smile it does a whole lot of things in your life. For instance, when you smile, you convince your friends, you convince your enemies and your ex. You can still smile and do some crazy things. It takes many thousands of muscles to squeeze your face while it take only few muscles to smile and be happy. You see!!! So you have to smile your ex and pains away.

Always Dress Good: yes! Your appearance also count. The way you appear describes your mood, always dress smart, put on that cloth that fits you most, wear that makeup people do compliment and walk with confidence.

Avoid Seeing your Ex: If you really want to get over your ex Just avoid him/her especially that earlier stage of break up as they say " out of sight is out of mind". Avoid that favorite place you guys used be because your ex might be there with his/her new partner, so avoid going there. Seeing your ex will only make you remember the past, probably you will get hurt. So you have to avoid him.

Listen to that Song that Inspires: When you're alone just on that inspiring music you love not that music you played together with your Ex. Find an inspiring song, love it and listen to it, dance if possible..

Finally don't forget that I love you so much for being part of this family.

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